Thinking Spring {Tea Kettle Flower Pot}

tea kettle flower pot

I’m thinking spring! Yep, I am ready to see some green flowers popping through the soil. How about you? Until then, however, I decided to bring more living greens into my home. You can always use more indoor plants, don’t you agree?

While I have never had much luck with succulents before {I over love them with water} I decided to give them one more chance in my house because I really do enjoy them. They are beautiful and can find a home just about anywhere.

Even though succulents like to home anywhere, I am rather picky about what I put my indoor flowers in. I really do not like traditional flower pots. They are much to boring for me. I am always on the lookout for something different to plant my plants in. (Remember my old wine crate turned flower pot?)

When I found this old tea kettle at an estate sale I immediately thought “flower pot”. It was perfect! I had assumed that I would need to fill the old kettle with dirt, and I was a little worried about ruining this beautiful antique piece, but then I found that the pot that the succulent came in at the store would fit right into the top of the kettle perfectly! How easy is that?

Now I can enjoy a little bit of the unexpected in my home, at least until I “over love” them..  must. . not. . water. . . agh! Its not an easy task for me but I will try my best this time!

So what do you think? Love it or hate it? 

<3 Dick and Jane

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Finding Our #DisneySide at Home this Year {Sponsored}

Disclosure: Today’s post was sponsored by Disney and MomSelect. They provided me with free merchandise to use at my party. 

Have you ever been to Disney? 
Two years ago we went as a family to Disney for the first time. We had such a great time that we wanted to go back again. We had planned to go this year. 

In fact, right now I should be in Florida. This is the week we had planned to go. As we speak I should be basking in the sun and spending my days at Disney. Why am I not? I am not because my husband wanted to cancel this years trip to save money. Boo. Why does he have to be so “responsible”? 🙂

I was really looking forward to going back and escaping this endless winter, but sometimes that’s how life goes. I am really trying to make the best out of the situation and stay positive. See –> {Big Fake Smile}.

Since going to Florida this winter was “not in the budget” I decided to bring a little bit of Disney home to us. There isn’t a lot going on right now because of the cold, wintery weather, so having something exciting and out of routine to do was desperately needed and wanted.

Sometimes the best things in life are simple and unexpected. 

Yesterday, while the kids were out I put together a small Mickey themed party for my kids and a couple of their best friends. It wasn’t anything terribly over the top, just a little get together to have some fun.

Our “just because” party consisted of Mickey and Minnie shaped snacks, games, a craft and lots of fun just being together with friends. Being with friends is something I am trying to bring back into my life. I sometimes find that, especially in the winter, I can go days without being around other people (except my kids and husband).  Having an opportunity to just get together without a real reason to celebrate was a lot of fun for everyone.

The kids got to make their own Mickey Mouse t-shirts using a stencil that I printed and cut out along with fabric markers. It was fun to see how each childs’ personality came through in their design. 

Even though we weren’t at Disney today as I had hoped, we were having a great time enjoying a little bit of our #DisneySide at home with friends. What was the last fun thing you did “Just Because”?

Have you ever been to Disney? Who is your favorite character? Of course, ours is Mickey 🙂 
<3 Dick and Jane

New Adventures {Finding My Courage to Try}

With all of our busy family schedules (which I am trying desperately to slow down the day to day) we often find that Sunday becomes our only day to spend uninterrupted time together. Yesterday, the sun was out, the weather wasn’t too chilly and there was snow an ample amount of snow covering the ground. It was one of those days when I actually didn’t hate winter.

I decided that this day was a great day to try something new. You know how the saying goes, your never too old to try new things? Today was the day when we decided to pull out our ol’ bucket list and see what was on it. One of the things on our “someday” list was to try skiing. My husband had tried skiing a couple times as a kid, but he gave it up some 19 years ago. I tried skiing once as a teen and ended up running head first into a wooden post that quickly ended my day at the slopes and the kids have never been.

Today, none of that was going to stop us. We were looking for an adventure. No looking back.

As I arrived at the big hill and stepped on to the moving carpet my nerves started to call out. I looked around me at all of the natural beauty as I quickly climbed higher and higher up the hill. The view around me was serene and I loved it. Being outside in nature with the sun shining on my face was something I had been longing after after a long winter of being indoors. As I reached the top of the hill and looked down towards the bottom I was ready, my nerves were calm. Never in my life before had I been so ready to try something new.

Without hesitation I pushed off, quickly gaining momentum as I skied down the hill. Having no previous training I wasn’t quite sure how to turn, slow down or even stop but in that moment I didn’t care. I was doing something new and it was exhilarating.

As I reached the bottom of the hill I let my natural senses guide me. I bent my knees, turned my toes inward and tried to replicate one of those fancy stopping moves that I had recently seen on the Sochi Winter Olympics (you know the one where they slide sideways creating a little wave of snow at their feet and then they raise their hands in victory?). All I can say that in my mind it looked like that, a real gold medal winning performance. However, others watching around me may say that they were just glad I made it down ok without hurting myself. No matter how my first time down the hill looked, the feeling that I had after that first trip down was amazing.

As a child and growing up I have always worried about what will happen “if”.  I have always been one to think through every possible situation ending before I decided to do something. I was a cautious child to say the least. Sometimes I am still like that now, however I am trying to open myself up to more new experiences because I have found that it is worth it. 

I was happy to have taken that first step and gave skiing a try. I sometimes feel that I am getting old and all of my new experiences are behind me or that I am too old to try something new. Yesterday set out to prove me wrong. There are so many things in life that I have not yet experienced and I feel more ready now for these adventures than I have ever been. I am not scared but I am standing atop the hill ready to experience life. While skiing down the bunny hill may not have been a big move in many of your books, it was a starting point for me. I took the first step into that ski, locked my boot in and now I am ready for life’s next big adventure.


– Travel
– Public Speaking
– Publishing a Book

I am sure that many of the things on my “someday” list are quite the same as my recent ski adventure. They might be a bit scary at first, but I am sure the views from the top will be amazing and while I wont know how to do things at first if I let my natural sense guide me I will come out at the end with a huge sense of accomplishment and joy. I may look awkward on the outside, but that’s ok. Inwardly it will be a gold medal winning performance. It just takes the first step and the courage to try.

What was your last big adventure and what do you dream to do next? 
<3 Dick and Jane

Pushing Back Against the Grain {Why I’m Saying NO to Shopping at the Grocery Store}

Usually when I say that I no longer shop at grocery stores people are either all with me, or think I have completely gone mad. But that’s ok. We are all different. This is just the method that works for me and it might just work for you too.

I have found that when I go to the grocery store, two young kids in tow, I end up (a) spending more money than I wanted to (b) buying junk food (c) driving myself crazy.

Before we get started, let me paint a little picture for you. Where I live we don’t have an organic market to shop at. We simply have one grocery store in town. In the summers we have a small farmers market that I like to visit, but during the winter months they shut down leaving options for buying fresh foods minimal. I also live in a cold weather state so growing my own garden veggies is also limited to the summer months as well.

Recently I have decided to change up my families diet. After doing my own research I have decided that I want to feed my family a more fresh and organic diet as frequently as possible.  When I say this most people scoff at me. “Why can’t you just be normal and go eat some fast food?” or “Buying organic is a waste of money.”. Those people are all certainly entitled to their opinion and so am I.  Going against the grain can sometimes be difficult, especially when those around you don’t agree with your conviction. But that’s ok. You don’t need their permission to live the way you want to {or eat the way you want to}. I would rather buy better quality products from companies with ethics and buy less than to fill my cart with a larger quantity of foods that aren’t providing nourishment to my family.

In the past I have found shopping at a grocery store to be very tempting. I sometimes find it hard to wade through the foods and find what is a good choice for my family. Try completing this task with two kids crying and what you’ll end up with is a bunch of food and nothing to prepare for meals.

Yes, it is true. I no longer go to the grocery store on a weekly basis. What I have done instead is signed up with a local organic food delivery service. Once a week I log into the service online, choose my groceries and once a week the groceries I’ve chosen are dropped off at my door.

You may think that this service costs me a fortune, but actually each week I am consistently spending less than I did when I went to the local grocery and what I am ending up with is good quality food that I can actually use to prepare meals.  I am finding that it helps that I am visually creating a shopping cart. I can double check the items and purchase only what is needed. I also have control over what I spend this way. There is no surprise total at the checkout. If needed, I can adjust weekly what is a necessity over what is a luxury and better stay within the budget I have set.

Sure, if you compare the individual prices of the delivery service items to the prices of commercialized products they are slightly higher. However the food that am getting through my service is organic and is coming from ethical companies and local farmers. These companies usually have higher costs of production so inevitably they cost a bit more.

All I can say is that I absolutely love eating a fresher diet. Not only do I feel better about the foods that I am providing to my family, but I feel better because I am eating better. I will warn you though, this method does require that you spend time preparing the foods you eat. There is no quick fix with this method. Each meal will take time, but I suggest you enjoy that time. There is no better moment of my day to think than when I am chopping veggies. Preparing my meals reminds me to slow down and enjoy the moment.

What I did wrong when I started out with my delivery service: In the beginning of my delivery service I tried out only getting fresh fruits and veggies in my delivery and then going to the store to buy the rest of my food. This didn’t work for me and I ended up spending way more than my weekly budget. It was not until I switched over to full grocery shopping through my service that I was able to see my savings. Double shopping meant double spending.

Do you eat only organics? What do you do about going out to eat? I am not perfect. While I try and make the best day to day choices that I can, I do still love to go out to eat with my family. I also enjoy a good candy bar and Coke-a-Cola from time to time. My main concern is that I make my families daily diets as fresh and natural as possible. I believe in “everything in moderation”.

What do you do about toiletries? For toiletries I still go to a store, however my trips only need to happen about once a month. There are online services that you can use to get toiletries delivered to you, but I have not yet started using them.

Don’t you feel like you are hurting local community by not shopping at your local grocery store? No, I am buying local. Not only is the delivery service that I use a local company, that employs local people, but it also purchases its produce from local farms and bakeries. I don’t think I could get any closer to helping to support my local community than what I am doing.

Do you make everything from scratch? Mostly, but you wont believe how easy it is. Instead of buying premixed pancake mix, I mix my own. Putting together brownies and cakes are just as easy when you use fresh ingredients. I still use canned tomato sauce and pre-made cereals, but I choose to purchase organic brands. We also feature many of the simple recipes for baking from scratch here on our blog so you can easily follow along.

For my grocery delivery service I use Door to Door Organics.

This is simply the method that works best for me, but I understand that this service might not be in your budget or available to you where you live. I urge you to try and find a way to eat fresh that works for your you. One way you can try to buy fresh foods is to shop directly from your local farmers. Check out Local Harvest to find farms near you.

 How do you do your weekly grocery shopping and is it working for you? Have any other questions, let me know?

<3 Dick and Jane

A Bowl of Chicken Burrito Soup to Go with This Endless Winter

Yesterday and today feel like they could last forever. Actually, I take that back. This winter seems like it could last forever. The winter snow has been so much more than any of us could have expected and yet it is still falling. 4-7″ more inches expected for tonight. That means another day of being stuck in the house tomorrow. “Cabin fever” seems only like a common cold now. No, what we have now is the full blown “cabin flu”.

As I look through Instagram at all of my friends in the warmer climate states posting photos of the flowers starting to poke through the ground, I sit and wonder how far under the snow the ground actually is nowadays. Maybe 18 or 19 inches below? Oh. . how I long to see the grass again. I long to sit in my backyard under the sun on a blanket and stare up at the clouds. To have my morning coffee on the back terrace in the mornings and feel the first peak of sun over the tall wooden fence. Yes, it seems as though those days may never return to me.

Deep down I know that the spring will return. . . someday. Hopefully it is someday soon. When the hot summer heat returns I will probably long for the winter nights, sitting inside under a warm blanket watching the kids play legos on the floor at my feet, while smelling a large pot of fresh chili steaming on the stove. I suppose its part of human nature to long for what we don’t have.

Ok, I have decided. I am just going to have to start being happy in what I have. I am going to have to look out my window at the bleak winter snow and find the beauty in it. Enjoy it for what it is and make memories out of the time spent at home. Use this time to work on some of my favorite things, cooking and crafts.

This morning as I walked out of my bedroom to see the snow up to my living room windows part of me sank. Ugh. Can I handle another day?

Shortly after I found my way out of the bedroom the kids came running out after me, they were excited to start the day, however they too had a moment of disappointment when they found a fresh layer of snow just outside our window. Mom, what are we going to do today? They asked. We are going to stay home today, I replied. Is there something you would you like to do? My youngest son, not caring about what the rest of the day held but seriously worried about breakfast cried out. I want donuts! Donuts were not something we normally have on hand and I was not about to venture out into the snow to get some. I shuffled through my cabinets in search of donut baking ingredients. Yep, we have flour, sugar, salt, eggs, chocolate. . basically all of the things we would need to bake our own fresh chocolate glazed donuts.

I decided to try a new recipe that I found on Pinterest because it used the ingredients I had on hand. The kids decided that if they were going to get donuts then they would be happy to wait until they were done to eat their breakfast. The both grabbed their aprons and chef’s coats and plopped up on the chairs by the countertop, each wanting to be closer than the other so they could be the one to put the ingredients in the bowl. The donuts were amazing. A moment of chocolate bliss.

After breakfast was done and the kids were quietly playing together I decided to put dinner in the crockpot. I wanted something warm and cozy for supper. . some sort of comfort food to get me through another cold winter night. I decided to make burrito soup. It is warm, its spicy and its good.

Chicken Burrito Soup

The chili style soup simmered all day long filling our house with smells of paprika and cumin. We spent our evening cuddling under blankets, eating warm soup and playing Legos. I guess these winter nights are not too bad and soon (hopefully) they will be replaced by warm summer nights outdoors.

I am still excited for spring to come, but I am not going to dwell in the misery of winter anymore but try and find the beauty in it with time spent together.

Chicken Burrito Soup {RECIPE}
1- 48 oz. jar of Great Northern Beans – undrained
16 oz. of salsa
16 oz of chicken broth
2 tsp. cumin
1 tsp. red pepper flakes
dash of paprika
1 lb. cooked & shredded chicken
shredded cheddar cheese
optional added heat – Tabasco sauce
optional toppings – tortilla chips, sour cream, green onion
Add everything to a crock pot  and set the heat to low – 8-10 hours. 
Before serving add a large handful of sharp cheddar cheese to the top and stir in. 
Top with your favorites and serve. 
What is your hometown looking like these days? Are you living with the snow or enjoying the first signs of spring? 
<3 Dick and Jane

It’s a Game Changer

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Vegetable Stir Fry : Raising Dick and Jane

Let’s take a moment and flash back to last summer. I spent my days working in my garden, basking in the sunshine and preparing fresh meals from the fruits of my labor. I felt amazing. I looked amazing. I had energy to get things done and was happy in my daily chores.

Now lets bring it back to the present (well. . a few weeks back). I am spending most of my days indoors. I am tired. My meals are lacking due to loss of effort and fresh foods. I feel like crap. I look like crap.

What gives? How can things change so much in a matter of months? I’ll tell you how. Diet. Yes, I believe there is a direct correlation between what we eat and how we feel. During the summer my diet mostly consists of fresh garden veggies and fruits. Our family meals were organic in nature. Winters can be difficult. During the winter months fresh food is not easily found. Sure, you can still go to a grocery store and find produce. . but do I really want to eat it? No. . its old and lacking that “freshness” that I desire. Besides. . most of it is grown using GMO’s now anyways. It’s a slippery slope. Once you fall into the routine of eating processed foods it’s hard to come back from it. I know when I fall into this cliff I simply never feel like I have the energy to bring myself back out of it.

A few weeks back I decided that I have had enough. I was getting kidney stones again. My body was screaming at me to make a change in my diet. Finally I stopped being stubborn and I listened. It took me several days to get my energy back and to get to the point where I WANTED to cook again.  However, once I made up my mind to get back on track there was no stopping me. First I started by cutting out the pop. I started drinking water with lemon in it. For lunch I was eating celery and peanut butter plus a yogurt. Once my energy started to returned I took to my kitchen with garbage bags and threw away everything that was spoiled and gave away everything that my family didn’t need to be eating. You would not believe just how much money my family was wasting on junk. I would buy snack foods and they would get lost in the back of the pantry to spoil. We had cupboards full of food. . but nothing to eat. It was ridiculous.

Once the cupboards {and my mind} were cleared I found a local organic food delivery service and signed up. Yes, the prices were higher than what I had been paying previously in the grocery stores for similar foods, but it was worth it to me. It was worth it to me because I was no longer putting myself in the situation of being tempted at the grocery store to buy junk foods, I was buying better foods for my family and I was helping to support local farmers and bakers who produce their food ethically and organically. In my head it just makes sense to spend more on better quality foods and buy less. The money that I am spending on fresher foods might just save me money in doctors visits later anyways.

After filling my household with fresh produce, organic meats and GMO free foods I next looked at what we were going to eat for meals and how I was going to prepare my new foods. I am not one to diet, in the traditional sense. If I tell myself I can’t have something I just end up wanting it even more. No, that wasn’t going to work for me and I was NOT going to give up my wine or coffee. Instead of denying myself I have decided to adopt the notion of “slow food”. What is slow food? Slow food is the act of preparing the food you eat. Savoring it. Enjoying the entire process of a meal from start to finish. If I want something sweet then I will have something sweet. . I just need to bake it first. No more picking up premade cakes and sweets from the grocery store. If I want french fries then I make them at home. This new way of thinking is not about denying myself but preparing things from real ingredients and savoring the “treats” when I have them. Inevitably, the treats will become fewer and farther between due to the time it takes to prepare them.

I have been in full swing of my new diet for about a week. I feel so much better. I have energy again and it is still winter outside. I no longer have that bloated feeling, plus I have already lost 5 pounds.

This change in behavior was never really about loosing weight for me, but about re-connecting with food and bringing meals back to the way they should be.

My decision to go back to the basics was honestly nudged by the book Notes from a Blue Bike: The Art of Living Intentionally in a Chaotic World. It is seriously a game changer. I recommend you read this book if you too are yearning for a more simplified life. It brought my mind back into focus and gave me the tactics for making a life change.

Notes From A Blue Bike

Looking to start on the road to “slow food”? Try this recipe for vegetable stir fry that I made last night. 
Vegetable Stir Fry

White Baby Bella Mushrooms
2 Cloves of Garlic
Bunch of Sweet Peas
Water Chestnuts
Soy Sauce
Steamed Rice
Oil (Olive oil, coconut oil. .whatever you prefer)
Begin by washing and dicing your vegetables.  
Add two tablespoons of oil to a fry pan over high heat (8). 
Add your garlic and veggies, stir and cover with a lid. 
Continue to stir periodically. 
Add 1 tablespoon of soy sauce over veggies.
Continue to cook until fork tender. 
Serve over rice. 
Raising Dick and Jane : Vegetable Stir Fry Recipe
Get ready for even more “slow food” recipes on the blog. I am super excited about my new life and energized to make it happen! 

Have you read “Notes From a Blue Bike” yet? What did you think? Was it a “game changer” for you too?

<3 Dick and Jane

Wine Crate Plant Stand {DIY}

Wine Crate Plant Stand

Last summer I found two remarkable wine crates at a swap meet and the seller didn’t know what he had. He gave me a price of $3 per crate. I was ecstatic. I bought both. There are so many amazing things you can do with wine crates! I just couldn’t believe this man was willing to give these up. . but so super happy he was.

Choosing exactly what to do with my two crates was not an easy task. I used one crate to create a plant stand {that I will talk about in this post} and I used my other crate in my dining room remodel. There are still so many other things I’d like to do with a few more crates. I am crossing my fingers that I will happen across a few more this upcoming summer.

Wine Crate Plant Stand

This plant stand repurpose project is an easy one. All I really wanted was something that would hold a plant and cover the base of the plant, dirt and container. I don’t care too much for black plastic plant containers in my living room. This little repurpose project did the trick. Not only it is sturdy but it also matches with the rest of my homes decor.

How did I make it? Really, it’s no big secret, all you need to do is to find a crate and add legs to it.

Wine Crate Plant Stand

The legs can be added by purchasing leg brackets and simply screwing them into the bottom of the crate. These brackets can be found at most home improvement stores or you can take them off old furniture you find roadside.

Wine Crate Plant Stand
After the leg brackets are on, you can simply screw a chair leg into the designated hole provided on the leg bracket. Easy Peasy. 
Wine Crate Plant Stand

I had so many ideas of what to store in this crate before finally deciding on making it a plant stand. I even considered adding a top and turning it into a seat or table.

What do you think? What would you use this container for in your home if it were yours?

Wine Crate Plant Stand

Today I am sharing with my friends. Be sure to take some time and check out everyone’s clever crafts and link up if you have something to share!

<3 Dick and Jane

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This weekend my family and I celebrated my husbands birthday. We did the adult thing and had a nice dinner together.  However, even though we are getting older and don’t have traditional birthday parties anymore I still wanted to make his day special for him. Together we decided that a fun night out with friends was just what we needed. We called up our babysitter, called up our friends and I made snacks.

That’s the funny thing about getting older. . having a fun night out now involves snacks.

Because of my blog I sort of have a reputation for making really great food. Everyone always expects me to wow them when we get together. When we called up my husbands friends each one of them asked if I was making food. Don’t get me wrong, I absolutely love it.

I didn’t want to let anyone down so I got to work on coming up with something that I thought everybody would love and something that I thought would be different than anything they’d had before. Plus, I had to consider my husbands tastes because, after all, it was his birthday and I wanted him to like it too.

I decided that I would make a dip. . because dips are great for parties. . and I wanted something sweet since we weren’t having a cake. My husbands favorite candy is Butterfingers, but butterfingers wouldn’t go well in a dip. . too hard. Then I remembered the big game commercial I had seen about the new Butterfinger cups available at Walmart. Chocolate peanut buttery Butterfinger taste. . oh yes. . I was on to something!

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One of the things I am famous for is my crack dip. It’s a concoction of cream cheese, sugars, chocolate and peanut butter. Changing it up a bit to taste more like creamy Butterfingers was the perfect idea!

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I was right. It was perfect. The Butterfinger cups were soft enough to blend well into the dip and the taste was dead on. I served the dip with graham crackers and it was devoured in moments. My husband also loved the taste and had a great time on his birthday. Mission accomplished! 🙂

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Do you want to try my Butterfinger Cup Crack Dip for your next get together? I’m sharing the recipe below.

1 box of softened cream cheese
3 packages of Nestle Butterfinger Cups – crushed
3 tablespoons of light brown sugar
3/4 cup peanut butter
1 cup powdered sugar

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Mix all above ingredients together in a large mixer until combined.
Place the dip in the fridge for 4 hours, serve chilled.
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Did you all see the Butterfinger Cup commercial during the big game? What did you think of it?

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<3 Dick and Jane

The Truth About True Love, Marriage and Valentines Day

Valentines Day is coming up and the constant reminder of “true love” is all around me. It is in the movies with happily ever after endings. It’s shown on the jeweler billboards with photos of diamonds and true loves kisses. It’s shown in the stores with advertisements of what to buy for your true love in order to let them know you love them. But I am slightly confused. What exactly IS “true” love? I have been married for nine years but if what I am seeing in the movies and media is correct {constant butterflies, passionate romance, lavish gifts, the desire to be with someone every moment of my day and a happily ever after fairy-tale ending} then I will have to admit that I am not actually in love with my husband and never have been.

It all seems a bit depressing. The media’s portrayal of true love that I am faced with on a daily basis has left me wondering if I have done something wrong. Did I make a bad choice in my spouse because that perception of love that I am seeing all around me is not my reality?

Do you want to know what my reality is? My reality of love is passing in the kitchen and saying “Hi, how was your day?”. It is my husband stopping by the store to pick me up a sprinkle donut in the morning only because it is my favorite and with no other need to make the stop. It is a smile from across the dinner table that for a moment stops the chaos of children whining and crying about having to eat their veggies. It is the choice to get up in the morning and do it all over again. . the work, the cleaning, the laundry and the marriage.

With Valentines Day approaching I can’t help but wonder if the meaning of the day and the media’s coverage of it is simply setting us up for failure? If we are given the impression that love is supposed to be something magical, then it just seems like anything less than fireworks and sparkles has no other option but to leave us feeling like we are missing out on something that everybody else has.

I must admit, it is easy to fall for this perception. However, if nine years of marriage has taught me anything about love it is that in the beginning of a loving relationship things can seem magical, but it is what happens after the sparkles have fallen that determines the true meaning of love.

Please don’t get me wrong, Valentines Day can be a fun and romantic day. Relationships can be wonderful. Love is wonderful. However I believe that real love takes work, the commitment to be with someone, to see them happy, and to be happy ourselves.

As I sit here pondering my own marriage, the decisions I’ve made in love and if those decisions were the right choices, I decided to Google the words “What is true love?” and see what came up.  You might be surprised at what I found but hopefully the results will give you a renewed sense of the love that you already have and what true love actually looks like.

Love is a temporary madness, it erupts like volcanoes and then subsides. And when it subsides, you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion, it is not the desire to mate every second minute of the day, it is not lying awake at night imagining that he is kissing every cranny of your body. No, don’t blush, I am telling you some truths. That is just being “in love”, which any fool can do. Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident. – Louis de Bernières,  Corelli’s Mandolin

Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. – 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 

“It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages.” ―Friedrich Nietzsche

“Love is not affectionate feeling, but a steady wish for the loved person’s ultimate good as far as it can be obtained.” ―C.S. Lewis

“Love is a decision, it is a judgment, it is a promise. If love were only a feeling, there would be no basis for the promise to love each other forever. A feeling comes and it may go. How can I judge that it will stay forever, when my act does not involve judgment and decision.”  ―Erich Fromm

Remember, Valentines Day is not all about the diamonds, chocolates and gifts because those things are only tangible goods. They do not last.

 I want the kind of love that comes with a sprinkle donut in the morning. 
I hope you all have a very happy and loving Valentines Day.
<3 Dick and Jane

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 I participated in an Influencer Program on behalf of Mom Central Consulting for OshKosh B’gosh. I received a gift card to facilitate my shopping trip and to thank me for participating.
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 I’ll just say it. The kids and I are ready for spring. This winter is forever going down in my book as one of the worst winters that I’ve ever had. We are all just ready for it to be over. Since there really is not much for us to find to  do these days we decided to keep ourselves busy and go shopping. I must say that I LOVE shopping, but I am also quite frugal. I expect to get great value and that’s why I shop OskKosh B’Gosh for my kids clothing. They always run such great deals and the quality of the clothing is superb.

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My kids have style (their own style) and OshKosh B’Gosh gets it. We had no problem agreeing on what to purchase. They loved everything we bought and I must admit. . they look pretty freakin’ adorable.

Here’s what we came home with:

 I simply fell in love with these French inspired bicycle pants! They are navy blue and white and perfect for a spring ride in the park. I wish these were available in my size!

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I am pretty sure that every little boy needs a pair of OshKosh B’Gosh overalls. There was no question that we were getting these after he saw them.
 “Mama, I want choo choo pants!!”

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This sweet little outfit was perfect for my Jane. She loves anything and everything with polka dots.
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Chicks dig him. . and I know that to be true because this momma is definitely smitten!
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Are you ready to start on your kids spring clothing line? Right now (through 3/12/14) OshKosh B’Gosh has a coupon for 20% off a $30 order and they’ve given it to me to share with all of you! Be ready to get some great value. 
Plus, while I was shopping I found that they were also running other promotions in-store so we were able to walk away with tons of clothing for only the $100 that we spent. 

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Ok, Mr. Spring. . we’re ready for you anytime now! The bikes and flowers are calling our names. 

<3 Dick and Jane